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Within your own house dwells the treasure of joy, So why do you go begging from door to door.
Chinese proverb
As human beings we are consistently involved in an endless search for something external to fill the void within us. We search for the perfect partner or our Soul mate, with the hopes of finding everlasting joy, happiness and true love. We look for a new partner to relieve our pain of the loss of another. What we fail to realize is that by expecting another human being to make us a whole person we are decreasing our own self worth and simply saying that we are not wholesome or complete as we are. What we need to realize is that we already have the precious gift of love and happiness deep within our own being and that our pain will always exist until we begin to trust and rely on the innate happiness within our own beating heart. There is no Soul mate out there; your Soul mate lives within you, patiently awaiting the day when you decide to reunite with the perfect love that exists and will always exist in the depths of your soul.
You are your best friend, lover and inspiration above all others, by loving your entire being you will gain unlimited capacity to share your love and kindness with everyone who crosses your path. Embrace the uniqueness of your being and begin to engage passionately in the admiration of your whole self. You have a specific meaning and purpose for being alive, thus it is your responsibility to honor your life. Before you can engage in any other intimate relationship in your life, you must devote love and respect for every aspect of your being. Learn to express compassionate and unconditional self-love. Allow the intuition of your soul to guide you to higher states of consciousness and be the recipient of the immense love that resides within your heart. Let the love, compassion and kindness exude from your being and touch all those you meet.
I offer you 6 suggestions to embrace and nourish your relationship with yourself and all other human beings you meet along your precious journey of life:
Practice mindfulness. A life lived mindfully is a life filled with peace, tranquility, joy, truth, bliss, ecstasy and compassion. Mindfulness is a form of meditation, involving direct participation in each moment as it occurs with complete awareness of your present experience. Dive into the harmonious and perfect rhythm of the universe and you will experience the true essence of life. Let go of the attachments of the past and the desires of the future and simply be, right now. These attachments always lead to discontentment, frustration and an inability to enjoy life. Free yourself from this bondage by first forgiving yourself, and then forgiving others.
Awaken to the truth of life. Do not allow your ego to manipulate you into believing that the melodramas of the physical world are a reality in which you must participate. Always reflect deeply within your being and allow your spirit to determine what is important in your life.
Accept change. Acknowledging change plays a vital role in our relationships. When we accept that others have faults and weaknesses, just like ourselves, we are truly in a position to know the other person and to experience their inner world. Rather than attempting to change the person to our ideal partner, we are able to witness and enjoy the growth of another human being.
Quiet your ego. Be still and know that you are not what your ego tells you and you do not have to react to what your ego thinks, feels, or believes. Stillness will help you to connect to that genuine part of yourself that doesn’t judge, manipulate, or harm. To live by your ego whether you are relating with yourself or others will ultimately cause conflict and confusion. Relating with your genuine self will emanate love in all interactions.
Acknowledge impermanence. Escape from behind the clouds of misunderstanding and gently surrender to the eternal present of your daily life. Accept and be one with the energy of the Universe. Nothing stays the same, yet everything remains perfect. To surrender to whom you are and to what is in each moment is the way to enlightenment in all areas of your life.
Embrace simplicity. This is the essence of spiritual life. To simply be, living devoid of all the chaos caused by external demands, is the path to ultimate liberation and pure joy. Implement enjoyment and humor in each moment you experience during your journey of life. Learn to laugh at yourself and the challenges presented to you. Smile in the face of adversity and know that this is the natural state of your genuine being.
About the author:
Richard A. Singer Jr. has written 5 books to help with transforming humanity. His newest book Now: Embracing the Present Moment is just out.
For more info visit www.EmbracingthePresent.com (warning: that site starts playing music the moment you open it, you can turn it off though).
Very true. Relationships are the mirror by which you catch a glimpse of yourself.
I found your website through your spiritual marketing ebook and squidoo girl and as always I get way sidetracked. But I needed to read this.
A. Because I was just journaling today about the need to be the person I was looking for. The concept of soul mate is so hollywood almost like crack. Somehow knowing that there is someone out there who can save us and make it all right again, feels good and gives us a false sense of hope.
B. The importance of being happy NOW.
C. And relax into the possibilities and not try to assign soul mate to every potential suitor I meet.
Thanks for the post. This is the most heart settling post I have read this last difficult month. I will re-read this post again tomorrow!
Thank you so much for writing this. On a lot of occasions I practice being mindful – and actually slow down in whatever I do; this brings in me a peace and helps me accomplish a lot of things I wanted to achieve. Also, I feel connected to my inner self. However, I find it hard to practice this all the time. I am still trying 🙂
Also, what did you mean by “Awakening to the truth of life”..coud you please explain?